Regret is powerful. Regret is costly. Regret has no positive value. Regret has options.
Should you find yourself in a place where you feel bad about something you said or did in the past, or, should you find yourself sensing a bad feeling or remorse about something you did not say or do in the past, give yourself a chance to not live in regret. Accept that your behavior negatively affected you, a situation, or others around you. You may sense guilt, self-doubt, your worthiness, and even think you cannot overcome it. You can, you will, and you may even learn from it!
Consider the following approaches instead of, and in replacement of, regret:
1) Turn regret into a reset! Let yourself feel - your feelings are legitimate, real, and they are yours - you need not ignore or suppress them immediately.
2) Turn your regret into a reality check!
Gain a perspective of the past, and know that there is where that behavior lives/lived.
3) Turn your regret into a resolution! Gather a sense of moving forward,and resolve to live in the present as you move ahead.
4) Turn your regret into a recognition! Realize what you have done incorrectly and apologize for it to those impacted (with no excuses or rationalization).
5) Turn your regret into reassurance! Share what you have learned and make a commitment to yourself and others not to make the same misstep again.
6) Turn your regret into release! Forgive yourself ad release the guilt and negative self talk, as it is not doing anything positive for you (or anyone else).
7) Turn your regret into re-engagement! Make yourself available for openness, vulnerability, learning and more - with all your heart, and all your hope that people will accept your regret turnaround readily and with resounding support!
With these seven simple, reasonable approaches, you will not be looking back, and yet, if you did, regret would be in the rearview mirror!