Monday, December 23, 2013

Appreciation Replacements

With many offers and gifts being given, sometimes we say and do things that we don't mean, or may not realize how they impact others (imagine that!).  In order to ensure we show our appreciation or position with respect for ourselves and others, please consider these quick changes in language: 
  1. Thank you replaces "Oh, you shouldn't have".  Thank you means thanks, and you shouldn't have sounds like a slight scolding (even though we mean it was nice that the person did it).
  2. Thanks replaces "You didn't need to do that".  We need to do little in life, and hopefully do more of what we want.  People who wanted to get or give you something know they didn't have to, so just thank them for their effort instead of that awkward rejection of they didn't have to do something.
  3. You are welcome replaces "No problem".  We don't want to think anything was a problem, especially at the holidays, so showing respect in response to a thank you, means they are welcome - no problem invited/included in the conversation at all!
  4. You're welcome replaces "It was nothing".  What you did was something, so if someone thanks you, allow them to know their comment was, in fact, welcomed!  
By sharing quick responses that are kind and responsive, respectful and heartfelt, we can give and receive with positivity and appreciation!

PEAs in a Pod

"One's philosophy is not best expressed in words; it is expressed in the choices one makes... and the choices we make are ultimately our responsibility. "
-Eleanor Roosevelt 
Longest-serving First Lady of the United States, Author.
(1884 - 1962)

Whether it is with a colleague, partner, child, in a personal relationship, friendship, or any work/employment situation, there are many ways to create challenges and have conflict, and also, gratefully, many ways to do just the opposite and enhance the opportunity to have enjoyment and success! 

One of the ways to consider creating a good foundation is to ensure you are both/all functioning as PEAs in a Pod.  Sure, we think of people or even animals as being peas in a pod, so to speak, when they are inadvertently doing something that is similar to one another or they present in a way that is alike.  The same is true for being PEAs in a Pod intentionally.

To establish your own Pod, here's how you tend to the PEAs:
P - Philosophy - share and listen to one another's ideas, hopes, dreams, approaches and overall outlook.  Make no assumptions.  Ask questions.  If this is for a personal relationship, you will learn what to talk about and even subjects to avoid.  For work, especially for hiring and partnering, you will know if you are coming from the same perspective in views and ideas.

E - Expectations - discuss things you want, and what you will provide.  Expectations can seem "heavy" in discussions for work or play, and yet, without them, we are making assumptions...and you know where that gets you!

A - Actions - make plans for who does what, when and where.  The how and the why are not necessarily part of this, as even those who are working in tandem can do things long as the agreed upon actions get completed successfully.  

By allowing and empowering each other to be "on the same page", or at least know and respect where you are not, you establish both a perception and a reality through which you will likely be strong in your relationship, clear in your focus, respectful in your actions, and even two or three or more PEAs in a Pod!

Tuesday, November 26, 2013

RSVPing Responsibly

You'll likely be getting and/or sending an invitation or two in the next few weeks, and below are some reminders for RSVPing respectfully and responsibly.  And, while RSVP may mean "repondez s'il vous plait" here, it means that plus: 

R - Respond minimally 5 days prior to the event, and absolutely by the RSVP requested deadling 
S - Say "yes" or "no", and no "maybe" or "I'll try", or "I might stop by" 
V - Volunteer to assist with something, and if you are the guest, volunteer to clean up  
P - Plan to be at the event on time (not too early or really late), and stay minimally an hour

For what reason?  For the following reasons:

R - People who plan events buy food, place seats and so much more.  Last minute changes make for last minute changes for the host, and the host has enough to do!
S - Being a maybe or a non-responder warrants being a "no" to me, and yet some others are not as steadfast.  Being a maybe is self-focused, and can appear as though you were just waiting for a "better offer".  Make a decision and stick with it. You are not doing anyone a favor by being at their party, so decide what is best for you, make no excuses or add any grandeur, and simply do what you say you are going to do.
V - It's formal etiquette, yes, and yet, it's just the right thing to do.  Offer to participate before, and mean it.  If that is not requested, then act on the clean up immediately on your own.  Unless you are told differently, keep cleaning and enjoy the whole evening/event's experiences.
P - Arriving too early and going up to the door, or into the room, is just as unfortunate as being terribly late is.  Shoot for a 15-30 minute range for arrivals if you are hosting, and have a call or something you can do out in your car if you are a guest.  Plan to arrive within 10 minutes of the start if things are more formalized than a simple open house.

These RSVP tips are not mean to be confining or stuffy, rather encouraging and empowering.  By RSVPing with kindness and care, thoughtfulness and follow-through, you will be a guest who just might have a ball, and get invited back!

Gobble Up the Gratitude

"Gratitude is the most exquisite
form of courtesy."
- Jacques Maritain 
French Philosopher 
(1882 - 1973)

Whether it is appreciation, happy, love, gratitude, a look, or another expression you have for the giving of thanks, gobble it up...and give of it freely!
A simple "thank you" can be the best thing someone hears all day.
A smile can be the most welcoming, sweetest sight someone can see all day.
A hug or kiss can be the best connection someone gets all day.
A sincere "you're welcome" can validate that appreciation, and encourage someone to keep giving more, where nothing, or a "no problem" may make the person feel as though the thank you wasn't worthwhile.
A returned smile with the softening of the eyes and the shine of your pearly whites can reinforce how powerful a kind look can be instead of a furrowed brow meeting a smile as though it is saying "what are you smiling at?".
An extra second on the hug or kiss can make that other person feel as though she or he will really be missed when gone, as opposed to the superficial air kiss or shoulder hug.
Only a turkey would miss out on such a feast of gratitude this Thanksgiving...or any time of the year!

Tuesday, October 29, 2013

7 Ps to Photo Empowerment

With social media making almost every gathering a holiday, and with many actual holidays upcoming, the photos will be taken, posted, liked and commented on before you can say "cheese"!  In order to empower yourself to embrace photo taking, please consider the following 7 Ps to Photo Empowerment: 
  1. Pick your best side (we each have one, and yet it could vary by the day, so check it out!) and make an effort to get that side facing, so to speak (and resist saying "this is my best side", rather consider saying "I'll happily take this end" when you are in a row of people, or even it is just two of you)
  2. Plant your back foot and lean your weight on it (this serves to keep you from leaning, and pull in your abdomen for balance, creating a lean look) 
  3. Point your front foot (without bending your knee, rather keeping that leg straight)
  4. Place hand on your outer hip(or put hand at your side with a slight bend - most men, and some women prefer this to the "hand on your hip" look) 
  5. Position shoulder (on camera-facing side by rolling your shoulder to get good posture, get your shoulders aligned, and keep your chest up and out) 
  6. Peer out of your eyes (by widening them and looking up as you dip your chin) 
  7. Play up those Pearly Whites (finish the powerful and fun photo by giving a real, sincere smile with a pop of personality)
By quickly giving your pictures these 7 Ps, you'll likely want to share, tag, and feel good about all the shots you are in this year! 

Body Language Do's & Don'ts

"Language is a more recent technology. Your body language, your eyes, your energy will come through to your audience before you even start speaking."
- Peter Guber
Howard Peter Guber is an American film producer and executive and Chairman and CEO of Mandalay Entertainment.
(b. 1942)

While much of what we say is what gets quoted or shared with others, it is how we make people feel that is even more well remembered.  Part of that "feeling" people get from us has to do with our attitude, some with the situation, and a lot of it has to do with our body language.

A few do's and don'ts for those holiday parties, business meetings and networking events are below...some of which may surprise you based on reports in the past, and all of which will serve you well in being confident, approachable, respectful and engaging with most everyone you meet:

In order to: Be welcoming of/to others and ideas presented. 

Do: Fold your arms in front of you if you are chilly or it is comfortable for you, just keep your fingers out and the cross of the arms below your breast line.
Don't: Fold your arms tightly at your breast line with your hands fully tucked in at the elbows. 

In order to: Convey interest, sincerity and honesty.

Do: Keep eye contact as much as possible, and allow yourself to blink or shift your smile or footing rather than looking away.
Don't: Look around to see who is watching or who else may be present.

In order to: Look and stay engaged. 

Do: Put your mobile devices on silent and out of sight when with other people.
Don't: Put your device on the table, keep the ringer or even vibrate on when with others in conversation or at events.

In order to: Appear polished, professional, well-rested and alert.

Do: Roll your shoulders, practice sitting up straight with shoulders down firmly.
Don't: Slouch.

In order to: Present as professional, mature, and patient when you may or may not agree with a statement; position or proposal.

Do: Listen with your pen, so to speak, by taking notes and avoid sitting by, and even eye contact with someone who may be in the meeting who is less discreet.
Don't: Sit next to someone and whisper to one another with a hand held up as though it will shield the whole act of secrecy.

In order to: Show interest in various opinions/approaches without attacking.

Do: Ask questions that start with "what" or "how" as those open up your face, and therefore, your positioning.
Don't: Ask "why" questions, as those create furrowed brows, frowns, and often close your facial positioning.

In order to: Respectful of all involved, confident and professional.

Do: Shake each person's hand with a firm handshake that meets web-to-web, with your index finger slightly pointed forward, and two-three pumps of the hand from the elbow.
Don't: Attempt to crush another person's hand with an ultra-firm grip, shake for a long period of time, cup the other person's hand, and/or grip a woman's hand differently than a man's.

In order to: Alert and attentive.

Do: Put hands at side, one in pocket, if standing, or clasped on table or in lap when seated.
Don't: Fidget,bite nails, play with hair, touch head or face. 

Friday, September 27, 2013

Pay Attention, Get Business

It's been said that "the devil is in the details", and I prefer to think awards come from interest, meaning there is a progression, when sincere, in making an effort and getting results, meaning:  Attention leads to taking Action, which drives a response in the form of Communication, and such interaction builds to a Relationship based on Honesty, and people do Business with people they know and trust!  So, pay attention, and get business!

Be a SQUEAKY Wheel

"Stay committed to your decision, but stay flexible in your approach."
- Tony Robbins
American life coach, self-help author and speaker.
(b. 1960)

It is often said, felt, and believed that "the squeaky wheel gets the grease", and in some locales, it's expressed "the squeaky wheel gets the oil".  Either way, it's about the squeaky wheel.

While I have seen the negative side of squeaking "work", meaning the person was "handled", and gotten rid of, recently, a few things did not go as planned, and in each case, I got that proverbial "grease" or "oil", and yet my squeak was less of a negative to a problem, and more of a nice approach to solutioning together.

If you want to be the SQUEAKY wheel for solutions, please consider this approach: 
S - Smile (note, not smirk!) 
Q - Question by asking in terms of "what" & "how" for conversation (instead of "why?")
U - Understand the situation by hearing, and listening to both sides 
E - Expect results and resolution (not a fight) 
A - Appreciate the position and/or authority of the person with whom you are speaking 
K - Keep calm, focused, fair and aware (of you and for you!) 
Y - Yell if you have to (just a certain is more about yelling, or singing praises when something goes right, or gets fixed, and not just when something goes array!)

Being a part of a battle or an argument is not healthy, happy, professional or productive typically.  Still, things go wrong.  When they do, remember, it really is the squeaky wheel that gets the grease/oil.  How do you want your SQUEAKY to be delivered and perceived, it up to you!

Friday, August 30, 2013

Hearty Appetite for Focus

Some people are real "foodies" where they love food so much they photograph it, talk about it, write post regarding it, and plan their days around it!
Whether you are a foodie or not, please consider you focus by food...or at least by meals!  Minimally, if you are being healthy for you, it's quite likely you are eating at least three meals a day, so think of them as: 
  • Breakfast is the focus on self and the day ahead overall (even if you are preparing meals for others, make time to focus on your attention and intentions for the day) 
  • Lunch is the focus of the resetting of your work day (whether you work from home or an office, lunch is a time to reflect on what has been accomplished, and what is still ahead for the day's results) 
  • Dinner is the focus on personal time and activities (whether you are traveling, eating alone or with others, ensure you give yourself time  to enjoy what it is that nourishes you personally)
With a hearty appetite for focus, you will have distinct portions of the day, and end it feeling as though the entire day was just a blur...and likely you will enjoy your mealtime, and your daily accomplishments even more than before!

Customer Service IS Inside Sales

"To give real service you must add something which cannot be bought or measured with money, and that is sincerity and integrity."
- Douglas Adams
English writer, humorist, and dramatist.
(1952 - 2001)

Too often Customer Service becomes the notion of being a "Service Rep." or a "phone person".  Really, Customer Service, when approached with gusto and expectation, is, in fact, Inside Sales!
How so?
Typically, Sales sells the first service, product, or offering, while how that client or customer is serviced after the sale is commonly a longer relationship than the original sale cycle.
It's not that Sales is not important, rather viewing and treating Customer Service Experts as your Inside Sales will elevate the role, and likely, increase the effectiveness of how they interact and take (even more) pride in their role, their actions, and their results!
Sadly, being seen as just a "Phone Rep.", or worse yet, "The Complaint Department", can minimize the importance of the position.  While I am not suggesting you should change titles (although you could!), rather positioning the role differently will have an impact with more than just them.  Noting, and appreciating the position will alter the way Sales thinks about their colleagues, as well as the way clients/customers think and feel when they make those calls to your Inside Sales Team!

Friday, August 16, 2013

F-words That Ascend, Not Offend

"We are masters of the unsaid words, but slaves of those we let slip out." - Winston Churchill
One of my favorite Lundbergisms is "practice what you preaching required", and it is my practice to attend trainings and speaker events throughout the year, just as I promote and provide learning events in my business. So, recently, clients and friends joined together to engage in some personal growth and learning of our own!
While I will not disclose the location, date or event name, you can imagine our surprise when we registered months in advance, arrived to find nothing ready, the kick-off started over 40-minutes late, and the opening comments by the host included the F-word (and I don't mean "fashionable")! Embarrassed, dismayed, and recovering from the shock and disappointment, I lead a quick discussion on how we can learn what not to do just as well as we can learn things to do. We turned it around, and even got a smile out of it. We made the most of the event, and the conversation got me thinking even more...what is it about words that can be so inspiring or so damaging...
Please know I am a far cry from perfect, and I am not a stranger to a curse word. There is a time and a place for how you want to communicate and be remembered. From that unfortunate opener, I came up with some alternatives to that oh-so-memorable F-word. These F-words, whether used out loud or as an internal guide will likely ascend you and your business and others' perceptions of you, rather than offend. The list includes:
FOCUSED - Remember to keep your client, customer, audience and team as your focus with your words. They are thinking about them, and not you, so focus on their interests. Also, stay focused on your expertise, so you can really hone it!
FRIENDLY - Rarely do business leaders get criticized for being too friendly. That approachability is what makes someone real. It is both the smile and welcome that people prefer to remember over the rushed and disinterest that too many of us have on our faces and in our body language.
FREE-THINKING - Being open to ideas and concepts that may seem different or new can keep you fresh. You may not implement everything, but by being someone who considers options, you will minimally broaden your horizons.
FORWARD-MINDED - Consider what and how actions and words impact the person, the company and you later. While I am big on being present, it is also wise to think beyond the moment and the emotions in order to think through what is about to happen. Impact often overrides intent!
FLEXIBLE - It is not only nice to show agility, rather it is almost imperative to be willing to change in our wonderfully-paced world of growth and "newness". Demonstrating an ability to shift and flow is something most of us admire and respect.
FIRM - Interestingly enough, I put Firm after Flexible. What I mean by this word and the order, is that it's terrific to be willing to collaborate and alter plans, and at the same time, to be respected, you do have to take a stand, and professionally hold your ground when you believe in something wholeheartedly.
FABULOUS - While this is one of my favorite words, being fabulous is more than a look or a one-time mention. Being fabulous is being happy for others, supportive of what is right, and willing to stand up and stand out for what you believe in while respecting others as well.
So, while this summer's traffic, heat, storms (and more) inside and outside your work or business may bring thoughts that are less than favorable, remember, there is no failure when you stay FOCUSED, FREE-THINKING, FORWARD-MINDED, FLEXIBLE, FIRM and FABULOUS!

Tuesday, July 30, 2013

SET the Stage

At a concert or live show of any sort, the stage must be set in order for the audience to get the look and feel of the message and energy being conveyed.

The same is true in personal and professional relationships.

To avoid assumptions, misinterpretations and simply, miscommunication, ensure you SET the stage with others, meaning:
Share your 
Expectations in a  
Timely manner

And, allow people to do the same with, and for, you.

By making time to SET the stage, you get on the same page quickly, and allow yourself, like at a performance, to get fully engaged, and enjoy the show, so to speak!

Your Community, Your Involvement

"In every community, there is work to be done. In every nation, there are wounds to heal. In every heart, there is the power to do it."

- Marianne Williamson
Spiritual teacher, author and lecturer. She has published ten books, including four New York Times #1 bestsellers.
(b. 1952)

You are a talented person.  You have choices to make about your time.  You treasure certain things, and make money, that may be part of your treasure.  Considering all that is true, and, since I am often asked how I got so involved in our community, this tip is about just that; community.  Community means more than just where you live.  And, community involvement is not limited to being engaged locally where you reside.  Similarly to my belief that friends are the family you make your own, I believe your community is what you create, not just what others make.
Being a part of a true community means being involved.  There is not a guideline for what to do, or how much time and energy "should" be dedicated.  Being a contributing member of your community is up to you and your level of interest, desire, action and ownership.
There are online communities.  What are you involved in online?  Are you contributing?  Are those contributions positive and forward-focused, resolution-based and not bashing?  Did you join a group and never go back?  Consider exiting online communities that no longer interest you.   Seek those that pique your interest now, and will likely last.  If/when one dissipates, then seek others for which you can contribute.
There are community outreaches, where individuals join others to let people know about an event, a place, a cause or activity that is taking place to better someone or something.  This is community involvement.  If you have not done a walk, a run, or even volunteered to support a walk or run for a cause that is important to you, you may just see the road detours as an inconvenience rather than part of a community experience.
And, then again, there is the area (immediately) around you.  Do you know the people by whom you live and work?  Do you have pride in where you are and what you do?  Do you know what is important to you, those with who you share time/space?  Are you willing to put in time and energy to ensure those issues, causes or drives stay relevant?  Do you buy locally to support your merchant community?
Being involved in your community does not just mean using the parks or things that were put in place by public funds.  While that is part of it...choosing a venue that is local versus far away, requesting farm-to-table foods be served, it also means thinking about, and acting on, what you want your future to be...what you want to be the community in which you spend your time, talent and treasure.

Thursday, June 27, 2013

Giving & Receiving the Feedback Gift

People like to share opinions.  Some opinions are delivered as criticism. People like to get feedback.  Most people dislike criticism.  Feedback delivered well, and received well, can be a gift...if we let it be!  In order to share opinions, ideas, admiration, and even constructive feedback, so the ideas may even be received as a gift for growth, consider phrasing your ideas in the following ways:

  • NAME, what you do well is _________
  • NAME, you are really good at is ___________
  • NAME, you have a great ability to ____________
  • NAME, your __________ was really impressive
  • NAME, you may want to consider ______________
  • NAME, you might want to incorporate
  • NAME, you may want to consider ______________ in order to improve ____________
  • NAME, you might want to incorporate _____________ so you can _____________
By offering your opinions these ways, instead of the typical "I think..." or "I think you should", or "You need to..." comments, you make it about the other person (no "I"), and will likely have your ideas heard, and then considered as input and worthwhile feedback that may even be heard as a "gift"!

Taming the Big Harry APE!

"You are responsible, forever, for what you have tamed. You are responsible for your rose." 
- Antoine de Saint-Exupery 
French writer, poet, and pioneering aviator. 
(1900 - 1944) 

If you are like most of us, there are times when it seems things are not going the way you would like, expected, anticipated, or could be going! And, at some times, that may be due to a person or people and how they are impacting you and your surroundings at the time. Consider, instead of "feeding the beast", focus on taming the big harry APE!

What I mean by that is we are the ones who allow things to grow or go. Feeding the beast is when you allow the situation or person to be bigger than you or your actions (it grows). Contrarily, when you focus on taming the big harry APE, you become bigger than the situation (it goes) through your:
  • Awareness 
  • Personality 
  • Expectations 
Be aware of what is happening, and that you are in control of you...not them, nor do you likely want to be, and that the control you have is stronger than anything else. Your personality is uniquely you, and with that, you have strengths and opportunities to improve. Go with your strengths, and adjust your personality to the situation to convey those strengths. Also, set expectations for you and others with clear communication, boundaries and exchanges so that you know when to stay and when to leave.

With your focus on your Awareness, Personalities, and Expectations, you will not feed the beast, but rather consistently, and happily, tame the big harry APE!!!

Wednesday, June 12, 2013

Lead for GROWTH

"A man's growth is seen in the successive choirs of his friends."
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
American essayist, lecturer, and poet, who led the Transcendentalist movement of the mid-19th century. (1803 - 1882)
Often a good way to grow ourselves as leaders is to assist in the growth of others.
Who can you be a part of in his or her GROWTH? Meaning:
G - Give that person the
R - Responsibility and
O - Opportunity to
W - Work within their
T - Talent and time while
Hearing feedback for learning
Remember, GROWTH is a good thing...for their leadership and yours!

Wednesday, May 29, 2013

AAA Style

"In matters of style, swim with the current; in matters of principle, stand like a rock."
- Thomas Jefferson,Founding Father and 3rd US President (1743 - 1826)
Regardless of trends or the season, think about consistently embracing your AAA Style of:
Appearance - what do you want people to see in addition to what you say and do
Attitude - what are you anticipating, sharing and encouraging before and during interactions
After-effect - how do people feel about you, and yes, even talk about you, after you speak, write or visit a meeting or event
Your AAA Style can be A+ if you are mindful of your look and your looks you give, stay open, and share ideas and approaches that encourage. Your appearance, attitude and after-effect all work for or against all you do. While it may be our accomplishments that we strive to achieve, often it is our style that has a longer impact!

Client and Customer Connection

"It is not the employer who pays the wages. Employers only handle the money. It is the customer who pays the wages."
- Henry Ford, American industrialist, the founder of the Ford Motor Company & sponsor of the development of the assembly line technique of mass production. (1863 - 1947)
While there have been many ideas regarding how to treat each other, especially when it comes to customers and clients, it seems there are far more theories than true application! Whether it is the "Golden Rule", or the rule of "The Customer is always right", please consider embracing the approach of connection in addition to satisfaction.
What I mean by that is:
-Clients and customers have many options
-Clients and customers minimally want to be satisfied
-Clients and customers like great service
-Clients and customers really appreciate a connection (and I don't just mean free Wi-fi!)
So, if you are striving to make a difference, be relevant, especially customers and clients, please consider:
-Telling & showing clients and customers you appreciate them sincerely
-Asking clients and customers what they expect (instead of assuming)
-Offering clients and customers ways and times to connect
-Honoring what was discussed
In our world of speed and social media, looking someone in the eye, asking them a couple of things to enhance their experience, providing what they want, and then thanking them for their time and business, can not only go a long way that day, it can connect you to them in a way a post, blog, survey or coupon may never be able to do on its own...and yet it may create a connection to you and your business that opens them up to those additional things as well. With connection, true connection, instead of chasing the next deal, you are consistently engaging in a way that is lasting and real!

Tuesday, April 23, 2013

From Loss to Win...

"Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have - life itself." ~ Walter Anderson
In life, we have wins and losses.
A loss is a loss...
A loss of something, someone or some opportunity.
Absolutely, mourn that loss.
And then,
Move to being grateful for what you had and at peace with what you do not.
Appreciate each person, thing, and experience for what is given...not what is taken away.
And while you will still have a loss, you will know that you won in the end with your perspective and gratitude.

Friday, April 19, 2013

From Negate to Celebrate

"The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate."
~ Oprah Winfrey, American media proprietor, talk show host, actress, producer, and philanthropist.(b. 1954)
Today, and each day, there will be things and people to negate, tolerate, appreciate and celebrate.
For those you are tempted to negate, can you tolerate?
Is there something you can appreciate about those you are tempted to just tolerate?
And, can you celebrate each and all you appreciate?
Moving from negate to celebrate may take a few steps, and yet they are yours to make it you want the best in your day!

Tuesday, April 16, 2013

Welcome Without the "Want to"

"Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow." ~ Melody Beattie, Author of Codependent No More, published in 1987 by the Hazelden Foundation.
When you are welcoming someone, or thanking someone, skip the "I want to..." part of the statement, and go right to the welcome or appreciation. When you say "I want to welcome you..." or "I just want to say thank you for...", you are making it about you, and not about the grace and gratitude that are conveyed for the other person with
"Welcome to..." and "Thank you for..."
Get out of your own way, your own words, and let what you want to say be what you say!!

Socail Media Connection Direction

“Communication - the human connection - is the key to personal and career success.” – Paul J. Meyer, Founded Success Motivation Institute in 1960
If you really are seeking to connect with new and existing friends on Facebook and other personal media outlets, consider only accepting those types of requests, and instead, for business connections or people you have met at/through work, redirect the requests to either a Facebook business page or LinkedIn since these are designed for business interactions. The verbiage I use in a private message to the requester is below, and over the past year, this has proven to be professional and well-received...and it can be for you, too:
Here's hoping all is well!
Thank you for the friend request. Since I primarily connect with family and friends to share personal thoughts and multiple photos of events, you may not want to see all of that...
Instead, you may want to "like" my business page, where I post weekday "Lundbergisms" for inspiration and consideration. The link is Also, if you are on LinkedIn, we can connect there at
Thanks again, and best to you,
Feel free to use or tweak as you deem fit, and best wishes growing your real friend base as well as your professional connections!

Invest in "The BUCK"!

"Successful investing is anticipating the anticipations of others." - John Maynard Keynes British Economist (1883 - 1946)
It's less likely we hear U.S. president Harry S. Truman' s expression "The buck stops here", and sadly more likely we have recently heard or said someone "Passed the buck".
This illusive "buck" seems to be in contention somehow, so instead of just stopping it or worse yet, passing it, let's consider investing in "The BUCK", by spending time and energy on:
B - Beginning with considering what is happening by asking what and how questions instead of just blaming or asking why questions.
U - Understanding who is involved and the consequences by looking beyond yourself and to the family, team, company or client/customer, as well as beyond just the bottom line or personal implications.
C - Clearly articulating what is happening and what will be done by agreeing to deadlines and getting agreement from people who are responsible for what outcomes.
K - Keeping up with the progress and the results through leading by example, interactions and updates rather than through micromanagement and fear tactics.
Times and people have surely changed a bit since President Truman was in office, and therefore our approach can also change in order to "buck"le down and not just "buck the system", but to really invest in "the BUCK"!!

Wednesday, March 20, 2013

Getting ABLE!

“As for the future, your task is not to foresee it, but to enable it.” - Antoine de Saint-Exupery French Pilot, Writer and Author
How ABLE are you? Are you:
A - Acting and
B - Believing in
L - Leadership through
E - Engagement?
Getting engaged with others, engaging people who may not typically be included, and really creating an engaging environment are all aspects of being
personABLE, and
and who wouldn't want to enABLE all of that?!?

Friday, March 15, 2013

Brighten a Day!

“Sorrow is the mere rust of the soul. Activity will cleanse and brighten it.” ~ Samuel Johnson English Poet, Critic and Writer (1709-1784)
Instead of looking for what or whom will brighten our days, instead, please think of whose day can you make a little brighter today?
If you think of something you can do for someone else, your day will likely brighten as well... possibly as soon as you think of the person, probably when you think of what you'll do, and almost certainly when you do it...
Make it an enjoyable (and brightened) day!

Monday, March 11, 2013

A (Different) Look at the Weekdays!

"Some cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go." ~ Oscar Wilde, Irish Poet, Novelist, Dramatist and Critic (1854-1900)
This week's post is about looking at each day with a point of happy and a healthy perspective, so enjoy the Happy Monday, Happy Tuesday, Happy Wednesday, Happy Thursday and Happy Friday!
So many people say "Happy Monday..." with much less enthusiasm, and, dare I say, even sarcasm, that is rarely there when they say "Happy Friday!", and yet if we embrace Mondays as:
M - Make it
O - One
N - Nice
D - Day with an
A - Attitude of
Y - YES!
Our Monday can be an enthusiastic and sincere "Happy MONDAY!"!!
Sticking with the theme each day being a happy one, our Happy TUESDAY reminder is to consider collaboration over the idea of compromise, as:
T - Teaming
U - Up
E - Encourages the
S - Sharing of ideas, where
D - Dividing and distancing
A - Alienates
Y - You
Our Tuesday can be a collaborative and productive "Happy TUESDAY!"!!
Our Happy WEDNESDAY reminder is to please consider the idea that how we anticipate the day is likely how it will play out, so how about you:
W - Welcome
E - Each
D - Day with
N - Non-stop
E - Enthusiasm
S - So that you
D - Deliberately
A - Appreciate all
Y - Your opportunities!
Instead of the traditional "Happy Hump Day" messaging of just getting through the middle of the week, our Wednesday can be a deliberate and appreciated "Happy WEDNESDAY!"!!
What is sometimes thought of as "Friday Eve", our Happy THURSDAY thought is to please remember that things and times are not really so complicated, rather people complicate them, so how about instead you keep in THURSDAY in mind as:
T - Thinking & being
H - Happy
U - Ultimately
R - Reflects in the
S - Simple approach of
D - Doing & being
A - All
Y - You possibly can!!
Keep it up, and simply keep making it a "Happy THURSDAY"!
We do hear "Happy Friday" a lot, it seems we often mean "welcome to the weekend" with that comment. With a little additional perspective, we can think of FRIDAY as:
F - Focus on
R - Really being
I - Invested in
D - Disposition and
A - Action for
Y - YOUR best day!
With this FRIDAY outlook, we can finish the work/school week strong as we start off an outstanding weekend, too. Happy FRIDAY to you!!
Whatever the day, whatever the way...make each of yours HAPPY!

Wednesday, February 27, 2013

Getting REAL

"Character is like a tree and reputation like a shadow. The shadow is what we think of it; the tree is the real thing." - Abraham Lincoln, 16th President of the United States (1809 - 1865)
Expressions like "Fake it 'til you make it", and "Never let them see you sweat" have become not only acceptable for many for being less than sincere with others...they have even allowed some, sadly, to be shallow with themselves.
Instead of being concerned with what others think, or don't think, of us, how nice would it be to be REAL with ourselves...and others as well? What I mean by REAL is:
R - Relevant. The opposite of relevance is vanity. Remember to be aware, stay abreast of what is happening, know you are not the only person who may be experiencing what is great, or challenging, and keep that perspective while being sad, glad, or anything in between.
E - Enthusiasm. The opposite of enthusiasm is apathy. Your attitude is your need not be loud or vocal, just yours. Having a belief in yourself and others while knowing whatever attitude you have is your choice, and your enthusiasm can be contagious...and worth catching!
A - Action. The opposite of action is worry. Worry yields nothing positive. Inaction is action,remember to choose wisely, as actions have rewards & consequences. Own your actions!
L - Leadership. The opposite of leadership is pessimism. The followers are not the opposite of the leader, as the followers are part of what make the leaders' leadership grow. Following is a way of leading self. Lead and guide yourself first, and others later. By leading yourself and setting an example is the way to what I call "Micro-leadership". Lead by example, and learn from experience.
As you maintain being relevant, embrace and share your enthusiasm, take action (and ownership of it), your leadership will continue to develop. These things will get and keep things REAL for faking it, just making sweat required!!!

TIME Ownership & Actions

"All that really belongs to us is time; even he who has nothing else has that." - Baltasar Gracian Spanish Writer (1601 - 1658)
Time is something that is non-renewable, precious, and yet many people act as though it is simply a slippery slope instead of a manageable resource. What causes that? And, how do we overcome that feeling of "no time"!?!
While much attention will not spent on these reasons or excuses, it seems the idea of "I don't have time for XYZ" is simply an acceptable response to someone or something being presented. There is rarely an explanation that is intelligent or encouraging, thoughtful or thorough, rather it just gets blurted as though the person can barely spare the seconds to utter the words, let alone, do whatever is being suggested/asked.
I am not encouraging anyone to say "yes" to everything or fake it on time, or even miss sleep to get things done in order to appear as though you can take on the day with ease and have "all the time in the world"! Instead, please consider eliminating: I'm so busy! I just don't have time for XYZ! You must have a lot more time on your hands than I do! I'm always late! / I'm always rushing! Who has got time for that?
Instead, TIME can be viewed as:
Taking-on, and
In other words, be focused, be in control, and be appreciative of the time you get. How about: I'm so busy! becomes "It's a full day!" or "It's going to be a productive day!" I just don't have time for XYZ! becomes "No, thank you" or "That's not a good fit for me." You must have a lot more time on your hands than I do! becomes "Good for you that you are dedicating time to what is important to you!" I'm always late! / I'm always rushing! becomes "Because I want to respect your time, let's please meet 15 minutes later." Who has got time for that? becomes a silent smile, rather than judging someone else for his/her choices
By replacing the first expressions that are lifeless and show no control or interest, and even insult the listener by implying you have more things going on than s/he, with these listed above, you will not only communicate more effectively, you will likely feel a sense of management and ownership of your choices, and your actions, which after all, add up to how you spend your TIME!

View, Not for You...

"Courteousness is consideration for others; politeness is the method used to deliver such considerations." - Bryant H. McGill
When you invite someone to your club or a restaurant/bar with a view, leave the seats with the best view for your guest, as you have seen the view before, and in order to host well, allow that person or people to experience that appeal that attracted you to the location/experience.
Hosting and having people enjoy the experience are things that may feel good, even if what you see is less that the best picture outside your table or seat...and yet, the view you really want will be those across from you having a great time!

Name Change

Debbie Lundberg Life & Business Coaching became Presenting Powerfully by Debbie Lundberg in 2013.
The tagline for the new venture is "Partnering with individuals & organizations to enhance communication, behaviors & relationships."
The focus of what is offered has not changed, and includes: - Inspirational & Entertaining Speaking Engagements - Group & Team Training Events - Personality & Interest Assessments - Life, Business & Presentation Coaching
The new logo, with the two Ps, reflects the internal and external aspects of how we present to ourselves and others. After all, how we present is how we are remembered, so whether it is one-on-one, in your writing, for a group or a meeting, continue to be Presenting Powerfully!

Tuesday, January 22, 2013

Compel to Commit!

"Commitment unlocks the doors of imagination, allows vision & gives us the right stuff to turn our dreams into reality." - James Womack, Author
Tell someone what to do, and, at the most, you may get compliance.
Compel someone with words and actions, and, at the least, you will likely get commitment.
Compliant people do the minimum.
Committed people give their maximum.
Get compelling...get commitment...get the maximum results!!

Tuesday, January 8, 2013

Hold On or Let Go?

"Courage is the power to let go of the familiar." - Raymond Lindquist, Author, Pastor
Holding on to people, things, and ideas that are negative and/or keep us feeling down, inferior or wrong, holds up forward progress and growth.
Letting go of people, things and ideas that are negative and/or keep us feeling down, inferior or wrong, opens up our hearts and our minds for progress and growth.
Hold on and be held back...not by others, but by you.
Let go and let yourself you, and for you!!

Friday, January 4, 2013

Commit to Prepare!

"He who is best prepared can best serve his moment of inspiration." ~ Samuel Taylor Coleridge, English Poet (1772 - 1834)
Want to improve your personal confidence and effectiveness? Then, commit to prepare!
Preparation is the combination of information, perspective, application and time.
Whether it is for a presentation or project, a job interview, a date, a meeting with a potential client, or any connection with another person or company, being informed, getting insights from others, applying the knowledge to the situation, and allowing yourself time to put it together, will work in concert to serve you well.
Effective preparation equates to empowered, and impressive confidence and effectiveness...and who doesn't want that?!?!?