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Wednesday, June 15, 2016

Turning Down Offers/Invitations/Suggestions/Requests

No is a complete sentence. Oddly, we often want to explain things beyond "no". So, if you are asked to do something, join something, or accept something that is not of interest, consider these options for saying "no" kindly, without justification or too much explanation:
1) "No, thank you."
2) "While you are kind to ask, that's not a good fit for my schedule right now."
3) "You are nice to think of me, and I appreciate that even though I won't be attending. Enjoy it!"

And then move on!

Notice there is no "I'm sorry" or "I can't", or "I'm too busy". Turning down offers/suggestions/invitations/requests need not be burdensome or bothersome. Being direct, clear and kind gets you to that complete sentence you can feel proud of!

Thursday, February 3, 2011

Knowing…or “No”ing

“Wisdom is knowing what to do next, skill is knowing how to do it, and virtue is doing it.”
~ David Starr Jordan, American ichthyologist, educator, writer


No self, no want, no plan; no progressive results…

Know self, know want, know plan; know progressive results!


Before we can get to the result, and there always is a result, whether it is intentional or not, we have the option to blindly, or even optimistically stumble with the approach of “no”ing to an end, OR we can make time for knowledge and the application of knowledge in order to mindfully and directly impact the result(s).

Ourselves, and people on our teams, as well as those in our partnerships/alignments, are either 1) those who know, or 2) those who choose not to know. (Knowing is loosely interpreted here as being aware, acknowledging, and accepting.)

So, before you or your team move forward on a project, proposal or plan, please ensure you know yourself; that is the person or people involved, you know your want; that is what your desire looks like, know your plan; or how you will be able to realistically get there, and know your progressive result; that is both the forward motion and tangible outcomes.

Without knowing, we are simply “no”ing. We’re just ill-informed, or worse yet, oblivious, and with knowledge, and the applied efforts that such knowledge brings, we can, and are far more likely to have that success, that win that will feed positively into knowing ourselves even more, growing our wants, sticking to plans and continuing to impact results. The circle of knowing is one of very little “no”!