"Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have - life itself."
~ Walter Anderson
In life, we have wins and losses.
A loss is a loss...
A loss of something, someone or some opportunity.
Absolutely, mourn that loss.
And then,
Move to being grateful for what you had and at peace with what you do not.
Appreciate each person, thing, and experience for what is given...not what is taken away.
And while you will still have a loss, you will know that you won in the end with your perspective and gratitude.
"The more you praise and celebrate your life,
the more there is in life to celebrate."
~ Oprah Winfrey, American media proprietor, talk show host,
actress, producer, and philanthropist.(b. 1954)
Today, and each day, there will be things and people to negate, tolerate, appreciate and celebrate.
For those you are tempted to negate, can you tolerate?
Is there something you can appreciate about those you are tempted to just tolerate?
And, can you celebrate each and all you appreciate?
Moving from negate to celebrate may take a few steps, and yet they are yours to make it you want the best in your day!
"Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow."
~ Melody Beattie, Author of Codependent No More, published in 1987 by the Hazelden Foundation.
When you are welcoming someone, or thanking someone, skip the "I want to..." part of the statement, and go right to the welcome or appreciation. When you say "I want to welcome you..." or "I just want to say thank you for...", you are making it about you, and not about the grace and gratitude that are conveyed for the other person with
"Welcome to..." and "Thank you for..."
Get out of your own way, your own words, and let what you want to say be what you say!!
“Communication - the human connection - is the key to personal and career success.”
– Paul J. Meyer, Founded Success Motivation Institute in 1960
If you really are seeking to connect with new and existing friends on Facebook and other personal media outlets, consider only accepting those types of requests, and instead, for business connections or people you have met at/through work, redirect the requests to either a Facebook business page or LinkedIn since these are designed for business interactions.
The verbiage I use in a private message to the requester is below, and over the past year, this has proven to be professional and well-received...and it can be for you, too:
Hi NAME!
Here's hoping all is well!
Thank you for the friend request. Since I primarily connect with family and friends to share personal thoughts and multiple photos of events, you may not want to see all of that...
Instead, you may want to "like" my business page, where I post weekday "Lundbergisms" for inspiration and consideration. The link is https://www.facebook.com/PresentingPowerfullyByDebbieLundberg. Also, if you are on LinkedIn, we can connect there at http://www.linkedin.com/in/DebbieLundberg.
Thanks again, and best to you,
Debbie
Feel free to use or tweak as you deem fit, and best wishes growing your real friend base as well as your professional connections!
"Successful investing is anticipating
the anticipations of others."
- John Maynard Keynes
British Economist (1883 - 1946)
It's less likely we hear U.S. president Harry S. Truman' s expression "The buck stops here", and sadly more likely we have recently heard or said someone "Passed the buck".
This illusive "buck" seems to be in contention somehow, so instead of just stopping it or worse yet, passing it, let's consider investing in "The BUCK", by spending time and energy on:
B - Beginning with considering what is happening by asking what and how questions instead of just blaming or asking why questions.
U - Understanding who is involved and the consequences by looking beyond yourself and to the family, team, company or client/customer, as well as beyond just the bottom line or personal implications.
C - Clearly articulating what is happening and what will be done by agreeing to deadlines and getting agreement from people who are responsible for what outcomes.
K - Keeping up with the progress and the results through leading by example, interactions and updates rather than through micromanagement and fear tactics.
Times and people have surely changed a bit since President Truman was in office, and therefore our approach can also change in order to "buck"le down and not just "buck the system", but to really invest in "the BUCK"!!
