My attitude has always been, if you fall flat on your face, at least you're moving forward. All you have to do is get back up and try again.
~ Richard Branson
A while back, a LUNDBERGism shared was all about letting go versus moving through, and how there is no such thing as Elsa's FROZEN approach, and that song, while catchy, is a fantasy.
We do not simply "let it go", and suggesting people, or yourself, do that, simply let it go, is not only wishful, it is nearly impossible.
How so? Here's a more thorough explanation for your consideration:
The ideal universe where everything is dismissable is something that lives in our imagination, yet our hearts and minds know that the reality is that of thoroughly moving through a relationship, experience, thrill, or disappointment.
Easier said than done, though, is moving through what is happening, conceptually and experientially.
It's tempting to simply say "I don't care" or "Who cares?", and act as though something has been let go, the reality of moving through includes:
1) Experiencing and feeling what is happening, and owning those doubts and beliefs
2) Processing what has occurred either is or is not what was anticipated, and what some of the outcomes may be
3) Realizing you have choices to vet and consider in how you respond, not react to what is at hand (which may involve sharing with a trusted confidant, and definitely is not about telling "everyone who will listen or taking to social media immediately)
4) Implementing the steps that will serve you best for your peace of mind, reputation, and footing for the future
These may all combine to look and feel like four steps for when something failed, and yet they really are also good for celebrating with gratitude and confidence rather than blowing it out and looking cocky or insensitive, too. We don't often want to "let it go" when we win something, and still there are times when you want to move past a label or client association, solely, and be a broader offering or business, so that is when the success side of moving through a situation or relationship comes into play.
Regardless of how catchy that song Idina Menzel song, and all the awards "Let It Go" is, here we are...and the cold truth of moving through can, in fact, become something that indeed "never bothered you anyway"!!!