Achieving Success!

"Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other." 

~ Abraham Lincoln

Success is often an aspiration, an inspiration, a dream, and a goal.

So, what is a success, and how do you get to "it"?

In order to enjoy and experience your success, please consider the following for getting "there":

1) Define what success is for you - not for others, not those who are mentoring, coaching, or even supporting you - simply for you! What does that look like, feel like, and more? You want to have that sense and focus first so you can move ahead.

2) Be mindful of imposter syndrome, which is believing that others will realize you are not as good as you present yourself. The way to overcome that is to stop comparing yourself to others and really own your experience and expertise for the value you bring.

3) Be happy for other successful people, SINCERELY, and not simply in words or posts - SINCERELY - no gossiping or jealousy of others. At the same time don't apologize for being smart, right or passionate about a topic.

4) Surround yourself with successful people AND continue to learn and grow both humbly and proudly! Often we hear we become the 5-6 people we surround ourselves with - and it is true, so choose wisely, and if you distance yourself from someone, remember, what they do may be successful for them, just doesn't for you at that time. Stay away from judging them, and be open to them changing, as they may be inspired by you, OR they may be defensive, and simply wish them well.

None of this will distract you or take away for your enjoyment in life and business, rather it will all buoy you up to experience all you can as you are succeeding and sharing that success with others!

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4 Words

"When words are scarce they are seldom spent in vain." ~ William Shakespeare

There are a lot of words spoken, and sadly, not as much actually said. We celebrate first, second and third places in many events, but not fourth. Often there are times we feel as though we "don't know what to say". Our parents may have raised us to be seen and not heard.

Having shared those 4 thoughts, it may seem strange to encourage you to offer 4 words to someone for whom you want to instill confidence. Sure, sure, those "three little words" are welcomed, too, and are not being discouraged. It's just this approach to uplifting another is a for a varied purpose.

Imagine the difference you might make if instead of silence when you felt awkward or unsure, or asking "what can I do?", you looked the person in the eye and uttered (sincerely, of course) "I believe in you", or "I'm here for you", or "I'm on your side", or "I've got your back", or "I care about you".

What would be different? For the receiver of your message, you might be the only person who shared such a sentiment that day, week, month, etc. Also, your belief, presence, support and care could be what pushes the person to go ahead an act on what she or he is "thinking about doing". For you as the sender of the message, it would be different for you to loan a little of yourself without it costing you anything. You'd get to be a part of consoling, uplifting, encouraging or praising another person...and that's worth being said, being celebrated, being shared, and being heard!

Thinking Before Speaking?

“Love and doubt have never been on speaking terms.”~ Kahlil Gibran

Many people say “think before you speak”, but what is it that we should be thinking? Perhaps you’ll think about:

1. Staying true to yourself
2. Considering the value of announcing your view...is it for sharing, growing or learning, or is it just for shock value or to “be talking”3. Knowing your audience
4. Deciding if what you said were a headline with your name and photo on the front page of every newspaper and website, would you still say it5. Being prepared to accept the consequences of your actions/ideas/words (good or bad)

If all those are in check, then you will likely not be surprised by the responses or backpedaling from your words later.